Pilihan Hidup

Hidup itu pilihan. Pilihan di masa lalu, menentukan hidup masa kini, dan pilihan masa kini menentukan hidup di masa yang akan datang.
Karena banyaknya pilihan, orang harus memilih yang utama dalam hidup.
Setiap pilihan tentu akan dihadapkan pada sebuah tantangan dan resiko. Setiap pilihan membutuhkan kerelaan hati dan pengorbanan yang ikhlas.

Harta bukanlah sat-satunya yang mem

bawa kita pada kebahagiaan... Harta hanyalah alat untuk membawa kebahagiaan, jadi janganlah jadikan sebagai pilihan yang utama .

Jika suatu saat Allah mengaruniakan harta kekayaan, semoga tidak menjadikannya sia-sia di tangan kita... tetapi bermanfaat bagi kita, bagi orang-orang yang kita cintai, bagi sesama di sekitar kita, dan bagi Kemuliaan nama Allah.

Semoga kita di karuniai kebijaksanaan untuk memilih yang utama dalam hidup kita , sehingga kita mampu dengan tulus ikhlas siap sedia berkurban untuk memperolehnya.

:)Arlina Husen - Indonesia

Thankful For Life

Thank you God,
For the blessing, protection, guidance,
and all the good that you give since you put me in this world,
till today ...
Make me grow in the Spirit
shaped my life to be beautiful according to Thy will

Forgive all my sins,
and make me more worthy of Thy

Thanks to my mother
who have given birth, rearing, and taught me to be a whole human being.
Your struggle, love and sacrifice for me... really unbelievable,
I love you mama ...

Thanks to my father,
your love is always in my heart
hopefully you're happy in heaven,
I love you papa...

Thank you for all the love that is always there with me
from my husband, my daughters, my brothers and sisters and all my nieces...

Thanks to everyone, thanks to the presence of you all...
my life more colorful with you........

 

 02 October 2012
:)Arlina Husen - Indonesia

MY OCTOBER NOTES

Yesterday I posted comments on a facebooker's status update
I : :)
He : why always smile, mom... when we can laugh ?
I : smile first, when you smile it's easy to be laugh, just add one straight line to make it to be laugh :) => : D
but if you sad/pout , it is difficult to change the shape , you have to ignore it first and change with the totally new shape :( => :D

SO, KEEP SMILE :) YOU WILL LAUGH :D SOON....
♥ GOOD LUCK ALL ♥
HAVE A BEAUTIFUL DAY
May your day be blessed and bright

 

God has a perfect plan for my life,
He never do it all at once, but step by step...
because He wanna wanna teach us to walk and live by faith
not by sight.....

Tuhan memiliki rencana yang sempurna untuk hidup saya,
Dia tidak pernah melakukan semuanya sekaligus, tetapi langkah demi langkah ...
karena ....
Dia ingin mengajar kita untuk berjalan dan hidup oleh iman bukan karena melihat .....

 

HATI YANG GEMBIRA ADALAH OBAT YANG MANJUR
TETAPI SEMANGAT YANG PATAH MENGERINGKAN TULANG

HATI YANG GEMBIRA , TUHAN SENANG.

Harapanku hanya pada Allah ,
Aku akan selalu memuji dan mencintai Nya
Aku akan selalu bersyukur dalam suka dan dukaku
amin

 

Aku percaya pada matahari
meskipun tidak sedang bersinar
Aku percaya pada cinta
meskipun saat aku sendirian
Aku percaya pada Tuhan
meskipun saat Dia diam

Aku percaya itu benar
meskipun terlihat begitu rumit

Bersabarlah. Hal-hal baik datang kepada mereka yang menunggu.
pada Waktu Allah yang sempurna.

 

 jangan ragu tuk terus melangkah, kita tak tahu berapa langkah lagi kita akan sampai pada impian kita....
sudah semakin dekat, kawan.....
Go, Fight, Win ! and Break Free.... :)

 

 jika sang penyair bicara , ia akan berexpresi dalam ungkapan rasa dengan goresan pena dalam syair-syairnya...
pahamilah setiap syair dengan rasa... agar terbaca maknanya :)

 

Jaga pikiran Anda positif, karena pikiran Anda menjadi KATA-KATA ANDA
Jaga kata-kata anda yang positif, karena kata-kata anda menjadi PERILAKU ANDA
Jaga prilaku anda positif, karena perilaku Anda menjadi KEBIASAAN ANDA
Jaga kebiasaan Anda positif, karena kebiasaan Anda menjadi NILAI ANDA
Jaga nilai Anda positif, karena nilai-nilai Anda menjadi KEBERUNTUNGAN ANDA
----------------------------Mr. Mahatma Gandhi

 

I'm not perfect, I make
mistakes and I hurt
people, but when I say
sorry, I actually mean
it...
Saya tidak sempurna,

Saya membuat kesalahan
dan saya menyakiti
orang, tapi ketika saya
minta maaf, saya benar-
benar bersungguh-
sungguh ...

 

Rancangan Allah bagi hidup kita selalu rancangan yang terbaik,
patutlah denngan iman kita bersujud syukur atas segala rancangan Nya yang pasti akan indah pada waktu-Nya...

Kita tunggu aja,..insya Allah indah dan terelesaikan. Amin :)

Gersang tandus tak bertanaman
Tetapi kita tak tahu yang terkandung di dalamnya
Bisa jadi tersimpan Intan,emas,perak dan berlian
Yang tanpa kita ketahui dan sadari - by Galueh Katulistiwa

seperti hidup kita yang gersang dan tandus di luar karena terbakar panasnya nafsu dan ego dan tak ada yang menyirami dengan kesejukan .... coba gali ke dasar jiwa terdalam , kan kau dapatkan banyak hal indah dan berharga di sana....
salam sehati sejiwa - by A.c. Arlina H. 

DOA
 Doa pertama-tama dipanjatkan bukan agar Tuhan segera memberi apa yang si pendoa perlukan, melainkan agar Anda punya kekuatan dan ketabahan yang cukup dalam perjuangkan untuk mendapatkan apa yang sangat Anda butuhkan dalam hidupmu. - by Inno Ngutra

Setiap saat kita dibentuk oleh Sang Pencipta dengan cara Nya untuk menjadi indah, semakin indah dan bertambah indah di hadapanNya ....

BE POSITIVE!
Jika kau dihormati orang, jangan bangga diri
jika kau tdk dihormati orang, jangan kecewa dan sedih
KAU TETAP BERHARGA DI MATA TUHAN

Jika engkau direndahkan orang saat ini,
jangan membuatmu RUNTUH,

bangkit dan tetap teguh

KARENA DI BLIK SEGALA KESULITAN,
ADA HADIAH YANG INDAH

tetaplah berfikir positif !

Untuk suamiku tercinta,
Selamat Hari Ulang Tahun, semoga panjang umur.....
menjadi bagian darimu adalah pilihan hidupku
sebagai tulang rusukmu aku akan selalu ada disampingmu
mencintaimu dalam suka dan duka, dalam sehat dan sakit
Ku berharap segala yang terbaik untukmu dalam cinta, kesehatan, kemakmuran, kesuksesan, dan kebahagiaan.
Semoga hidup dan kasihmu selalu suci untukku dan keluarga

JAM KEHIDUPAN
Kebahagiaan hidup hanya milik orang yg mampu menikmatinya dengan penuh SYUKUR.

JAM KEHIDUPAN hanya sekali berputar...
ada MENIT yang harus dilalui dengan MANIS ,
ada MENIT yang harus dilalui dengan PAHIT.
Jalanilah setiap DETIK dengan BERSYUKUR
agar kita menjadi lebih BIJAKSANA. 

:)Arlina Husen - Indonesia

Untuk Sahabatku, Sang Kelana dalam Kembara

posted @   katulistiwa@line: SANG PENGELANA
Untuk Sahabatku, Sang Kelana dalam Kembara

Sang kelana di tengah padang yang tandus
sepi dan sendiri dalam kembara
ku lihat sebuah kerinduan dimatamu
kerinduan yang sangat mendalam
rindu sang kekasih hati...
rindu sang mutiara jiwa...
rindu kehangatan pelukan ayah-bunda...
rindu canda-tawa dlm kehangatan keluarga

sang kelana dalam kembara...
kulihat kelu di balik senyum bibirmu
kelu dari hati yang tersayat sembilu
caci, maki, hujat, dan fitnah...
kelu dari beban berat di pundakmu
kelu dari kesunyian hari-harimu
kelu dalam kembara yang belum juga berakhir

sang kelana dalam kembara...
kulihat kuat perkasamu, tuk tegak berdiri
kulihat kobar semangatmu, tuk tetap melangkah pasti
kulihat keteguhan jiwamu, tuk tunaikaan tugas mulia
dengan sebuah tekad yang membara bak kobaran api
tanpa terucap kata dari bibirmu
pantang kau berbalik menoleh
pantang kau menyerah kalah
pantang kau kembali tanpa hasil

sahabatku, sang kembara sejati...
ku rasakan jeritan jiwamu....
ku rasakan tangisan hatimu...
tak kuat menahan kerinduan...

hanya doa yang bisa kupersembahkan padamu,
tuk menemani langkahmu....

Ya Allah, berikanlah kepada sahabatku ,
kepada, kekasih hatinya, dan kepada mutiara jiwanya,
ayah dan bundanya, dan semua keluarga yang dirindukannya
Kesehatan, ketabahan, kekuatan, kebahagiaan, dan
kelimpahan rahmatMu yang tak terukur
Bantulah hingga perjuangan dalam kembaranya
berakhir dan berhasil gemilang,
Hantarkanlah sahabatku kembali ke kehangatan keluarga
yang di cintai dan dirindukannya....
Amin.

:)Arlina Husen - Indonesia

Galau

hatinya bagai tersayat sembilu ketika dia merasa bahwa dirinya tak berarti untuk orang yang justru dicintainya dan diperjuangkannya.... dan air mata mengalir bagai aliran mata air yang tak dapat dibendung meski oleh waktu...

Sang Penyair menari dan tertawa dalam genangan air mata dari mata air kehidupan yang tak pernah habis ... mengikuti alur irama kehidupan dalam setiap hentakan melody yang selalu berganti menapaki setiap detik waktu yang mengalau dalam detakan jantung dari hati yang terkoyak

Sang Penyair tetap berusaha melantunkan nada-nada cinta dalam syair kehidupan yang kuyup dalam genangan air mata .... menyerukan syair pedih dalam balutan angkara murka dari hati yang koyak oleh cinta... menari dan tertawa dalam melody ombak yang bergulung menyapu setiap asa.

Namun irama kehidupan tetap mengalun dan Sang Penyair tetaplah bersyair dengan dendang melody yang tersisa dari serpihan-serpihan hati yang terkoyak , menggabungkan setiap makna yang tercecer ..terengah-engah berenang dalam genangan air kehidupan, terseok-seok melangkah dalam gulita untuk menggapai setitik cahaya yang sempurna.

:)Arlina Husen - Indonesia

The Sacred Of Marriage

From the beginning God created the first man Adam, do not let him alone. Then from the man ribs God creates Eve. All God does were right and God has a noble purpose for human creation. Eve was created from Adam's rib, God intends for her to be an equal companion, and men should protect and love the woman that God created for him. Then God told them to multiply and replenish multiply.

Marriage is a sacred thing that is repeated again the work of God's creation and the human willingness to perform the task of mission in the world as God commanded the first man, Adam and Eve.Sacred mission of marriage is that: the couple who have united by God, should not be separated because both are one body, God has create women to be partner  with him, she is a part of himself, his ribs. Couples should love each other, understand each other, help each other, protect each other, reinforce each other and always maintained good communication.
God ordered that the bear-grandchildren, meaning That God's given children to couples is for  the second mission, the couple should be able to educate, guide and assist, and maintain their children until they can become an independent person, being an appropriate adult in the will of God and able to continue the new creation and carry out Thy will.
For each person, God has determined each spouse according to Thy will for the good of mankind in the eyes of God, remember God's eyes rather than the human eyes.
At the beginning of a marriage, usually all feel beautiful and flowery, but after a while, start to appear so many differences, and start chaos in the couple's relationship. How do we respond to this? Or the couple start thinking ... the man said she was not my ribs, and woman said I did not come from his rib???
precisely here that we tested, where loyalty to the promise in front of God, be faithful in difficult and happy, lucky and poor, healthy and sick? When your partner changed, bring him/her in prayer, accompanied by, ask, talk to, if she/he sad console him, pray for him, if he/she was weak, strengthen him not to even leave her alone and never then seek your own pleasure. difficulty and pleased should be divided by two. Must mutual sacrifice, remember do not let one who continues to sacrifice, this is not the will of God. Because couples are created equal. If one of couple did a mistake should forgive each other, pray for one another. Remember this is the mission of a marriage, because basically no human being is perfect, so the couple should complete each other.
If each partner aware of this, of course there will be no divorce.Think about it and share it together with your spouse, any good or bad events, even though it is so painful, we should realized that there is the plan of God in it. For the goodness of his beloved couples. Remember that in every couple who have been united by God should be good in the view of God and by God's design, not by human sight and  design.
Hope all couples in this world always aware to the sacred mission of marriage.

posted in arlina.mp  february 12,2011

Parents Mistake That Makes Misbehavior Worse In Kids And Teenagers

By Ashley on November 28, 2010

Have you ever found yourself frustrated because whatever discipline, bribes, or negotiations you use with your child, he or she still pushes your buttons? Parenting is far from a walk in the park, as any mother or father knows. Not only do children demand everything from you, they also test your patience constantly. Children are always busy with ’something’ – and usually that ’something’ causes a mess that we have to clean up. The whining for new toys or treats can become so annoying. Or they resist us and openly defy us. Kids are expert manipulators, they usually have us completely figured out. Some parents actually become afraid of their kids, and have a sense of dread because they walk all over the parents.

But parenting need not be so difficult. In fact, there is a way that exhausted and stressed parents can reclaim their peace of mind in their own home. First, parents need to become aware of these common mistakes that actually cause the misbehavior in children and teenagers to get worse. These are the three most common mistakes that mothers and fathers make that actually sabotage their efforts to discipline and educate their children.

3 Common Parenting Mistakes Mothers and Fathers Make:

1. Not getting enough “me time.” A little self-rejuvenation goes a long way – parents need to emotionally re-charge.

2. Using discipline methods that don’t work. Spending a little time to learn about more effective ways to discipline your children so they cooperate more easily can save a lot of frustration.

3. Not responding to the underlying reason for their child’s misbehavior Reacting to the behavior rather than understanding the “root” of the misbehavior. Think about what your child may need that they’re not getting.

MISTAKE #1 – The ’super-mom’ syndrome

By far the biggest mistake most parents make is that they don’t take time for themselves. It’s the ’super-mom’ syndrome (or ’super-dad’). Sadly it’s considered normal that mothers and fathers over-extend themselves for the sake of the family, even to the point of exhaustion and health disturbances. The truth is that this formula simply doesn’t work. It back-fires once the exhausted mother has no more to give; she starts to become resentful, depressed, irritable, and loses her patience more and more as the demands on her don’t give her the break she needs. It’s common for exhausted parents to snap at their children or begin to use discipline methods that coerce children through threats, bribes, punishments and manipulation – which actually cause children to misbehave even more.

A stressed and exhausted mother simply doesn’t have the attention span and patience that her child may need. A child who isn’t getting the attention he or she needs from her parents will begin to behave in whatever manner necessary in order to get any crumb of attention, which can manifest as “naughty misbehavior” and “temper tantrums”.

Remember, you can only give what you have. So if you don’t give yourself the space and time to renew, rejuvenate and refresh yourself, how can you continue giving of yourself? Parents need to find someone to give them some attention and care too. If you’re a parent and you find yourself exhausted and frustrated more often than not, then you need to get some time to rejuvenate. Find a friend with whom you can meet with regularly and exchange “listening time” together. Having someone attentively listen to you and give you their full attention is one of the best ways to emotionally rejuvenate yourself.

Exercise is another, take time to work out your physical kinks by sweating and stretching away from your children. Even if it’s only for an hour at night after the kids go to sleep. Don’t worry if you can’t fully clean up the kitchen before bed… you don’t need to have everything perfect all the time.

What’s more important? An impeccably clean house or your emotional well-being? Sometimes you have to make a choice. Sometimes you have to put your emotional well-being as a higher priority to having a clean house.

There’s no reason that parenthood should feel like a prison. Think about it, you will be a parent for some time, so you might as well enjoy it. Otherwise you’ll find yourself old and look back with regret at all the wasted years. We don’t want that! If you are emotionally rejuvenated, then you’ll be able to give much better attention to your children. And your child will become much more cooperative and well behaved because of this. If you have to make big changes in your life to schedule more time for yourself – do it! Your child will thank you down the road.

Find a friend, family member or babysitter to help you with the kids so you can get some time away from them to re-charge. Don’t use this time to ‘catch-up’ on more chores, errands or work! Instead, take some time for yourself to unwind. Go for a walk in nature alone, get a massage, have a coffee with a friend, work out at the gym, cry on a friend’s shoulder for a while, find a therapist with whom you can open up with, go to the spa and pamper yourself, take a yoga class, spend some time doing pottery, do some hoola hooping, whatever you need to feel re-charged and happy.

MISTAKE #2 – Using out-dated discipline methods that don’t really work

Considering the vast impact that each generation has on our society in general, it’s amazing that we don’t have a proper parenting education system. The future of our world lies in the hands of our children. And how parents raise, discipline and teach the kids of today determines our future. After working with thousands of parents, we’ve discovered that most parents simply repeat the same discipline tactics that their parents used, without educating themselves on the different options available. Plus, many of these parents soon discover the long-lasting psychological effects that some of these out-dated discipline tactics can have on their children. In fact, many discipline methods actually contribute to the rise in attention deficit and hyperactivity symptoms, as well as increasingly worse teenage defiance and rebellion.

Not educating ourselves on the effects of many discipline methods and discovering healthier options is an easy mistake to make. After all, it’s how we were raised wasn’t it? The question we really need to ask is whether or not we want to learn new ways that work better to discipline our kids. We’ve often found that learning one or two new parenting skills can really make a big difference with parents who struggle with getting a defiant child to cooperate.

So often parents are at a loss as to how to respond to a child who throws a temper tantrum, shows defiance, is hyperactively out-of-control, or who has difficulty concentrating and maintaining attention. Unless parents learn new ways to respond then the frustrating behavior will keep on repeating.

The biggest key in resolving a child’s undesirable behavior is to understand the real reasons why the child is misbehaving. In our education program, parents are often surprised to learn that so many of the things they do to try to discipline their kids are actually making the misbehavior worse because the real needs and issues of the child are completely ignored. To learn about what the underlying reasons for misbehavior in children are, read the next common mistake parents make…

MISTAKE #3 – Not responding to the underlying reason for their child’s misbehavior

One of the most common mistakes parents make is that they don’t address the “root” of their child’s behavior. When a child acts out; most parents rush them to composure, try to hush the tantrum or overpower the defiance. Yet, in reacting to the tantrum, crying, whining, hitting, biting, rebellion, name calling or whatever expression the misbehavior takes, parents are in effect missing their opportunity to really solve the underlying “root cause” of the child’s behavior.

There are 3 Reasons for a Child’s Misbehavior.

There are usually 3 reasons why a child may be acting in ways that are not desirable.

The first is that they have a genuine need that is not being met. The second reason is that they are reacting to some unresolved stress or tension. The third reason is that they are missing information about the situation. For example; a two year-old child simply doesn’t know that mud makes the floor dirty, so we can’t really blame them for tracking their dirty boots on the floor if we’re not supervising them close enough. In this example the two year-old needs missing information and needs some kind of physical barrier or closer supervision to stop them from tromping mud all over the floor.

If a teenager is doing something that is causing you stress and pain, it’s likely a cry for attention. Teenagers usually crave to have more time and attention from their parents, they usually desperately want to talk about their problems and uncertainties with someone they can trust, who won’t judge them, be-little them or take away their power by telling them what they should do. Many teenagers bury a lot of resentment and anger because they don’t have any safe space to express their emotions. If parents can free themselves up by getting emotional rejuvenation for themselves they can give their teenager or child the attention and time that they really need to work through these issues. But exhausted and stressed parents usually don’t have the wherewithal to deal with a teenager’s emotions; because often children will have strong feelings that come up which are often directed towards the parent.

If parents avoid the first mistake and give themselves the time and space to rejuvenate. Then they are more able to approach their child from a calmer, refreshed and less reactive stance, then they will be able to step back and really think about their child’s needs. Once parents figure out the real need of the child, then they can actually respond to the misbehavior in a way that will instantly fix it at the root. Avoiding the second mistake means that you don’t keep beating your head on the wall trying to use various forms of punishments or rewards that don’t work in the long run.

To learn 7 simple ways to transform misbehavior into great behavior, which discipline methods you want to avoid and how to better understand the reasons for your child’s behavior you can download our complete guide on child behavior and parenting skills here: The Happy Child Guide

The Happy Child Guide  – 7 simple ways to transform misbehavior into great behavior

:)Arlina Husen - Indonesia